QUESTION Tayana, help me, please! I do not know how to begin… I with my husband have been living for 15 years. We lived friendly and cheerfully. We worked together, brought up children together. We were almost as a single whole. And now a strange period began which is expressed with the fact that I lost interest to my husband as the sexual partner. In former years it was not also at the first place for me, it was just as a part of our joint life. And now I do it hardly. The most thing, that I hurt close person because he loves me. But sexual life is that area where to force yourself to do something is practically impossible. The most important is that in other spheres of our life – work, education of children – all is normal. But we have grief in our hearts, I feel fault. Advise something.
ANSWER OF TAYANA Sex is a part of our life. It serves for the realization of the certain functions. But the person has his own option: as, where, with whom and when to do it. The nature of sex is complex, as the person is also complex. One is possible to tell with confidence that it is a creative aspect of the Universe. What form of creativity it accepts on the physical plan, depends on various circumstances. Sexual attitudes for the great amount of people are some kind of need. And it is ugly, as people in this case exploit each other. Is sex a duty for you, and are you a concubine? Your condition is the protest; it is caused by the suppressed anger.

Sex becomes sacred if it has quality of game. The main thing consists in how you do it. Someone through orgasm in sex feels God. And such sensuality is spiritual, because during this moment there is a merge in a single whole of your body, mind, consciousness. It happens for short term, but it happens. I think that you will go through it. And till now sex was a mechanical process without life.

In this case it is possible to shine only a little reason of the given conflict and how to lead correction of attitudes is up to you; in fact there are as many ways in this direction, as many human hearts.

In intergalactic spaces
The ways of God conduct us.
And we are motes, we are furniture
Of all those worlds, those live in us.

The next stage of your joint life came to end. Attitudes demand something new experiences, probably, in sex also. You miss from monotony. Your mind got used to compare all. Comparisons entail occurrence of various desires, desires generate sufferings. Sufferings hurt. The pain is transformed into despondency, depression. The life which should bring the realized condition of unstipulated pleasure of life becomes dim and full of grief. Show the creativity. Certainly, this problem should be solved together, but the leader should be you. Certainly, sex is not the panacea from all troubles, but it can appear one of stages of the way to the Maximum.

Very long time ago in ancient city there lived the Master who had many pupils. Most capable of them once meditated: ” And whether there is a question, which our Master could not answer? ” He went to a blossoming meadow, caught the most beautiful butterfly and hid it between his palms. The butterfly clinged with its paws to his hands, and it tickled the pupil. Smiling, he came to the Master and asked:
– Tell, what butterfly I have: alive or dead?
He held the butterfly h3ly in his palms and was ready to compress them for the sake of the proof of his correctness.
Without looking at the hands of the pupil, the Master answered:
– All is in your hands.

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