QUESTION I do not know what to do: to divorce from wife or not? Last time this question does not allow me to sleep. I don’t like her. Parents chose her. It frequent happens in such a way. The girl I liked, they did not accept. They thought that they are descendants of prince Welsh (I speak figuratively). And here I am at the crossroads. I do not like her, but I feel sorry for her. I fork; I do not know what to do. I do not want to be the victim. And I have problems with work, and I search and I search for new work. I put the questionnaire here and there, but nobody answers. Help me, please. Tell me what to do?
ANSWER OF TAYANA You want new experiences and problems than make divorce. At least, you will solve the question concerning the independence with parents. You will live and operate. The time of your parents’ influence leaves, and you should learn to make the decision independently and take all the responsibility for it if, certainly, you will have enough courage.

You feel sorry not for your wife but you regret yourself and expecting difficulties which will follow by parting, in fact you are not so perfect not to have attachment to objects; you are too busy by your own person, the position in a society, you pay too much attention to another’s people opinion. There is no confidence that your new wife will bring only pleasure and calmness to you. Emptiness tends to be filled. It is bad don’t have love, to live with the unloved person is hard. But when the love is found, there is a fear to lose it. And the behavior of the person is changing, that in the further future will also cause new problems in life.

Love and hatred, happiness and misfortune are very close to each other. Here, as well as in all, there is a law. But life is arranged in such a way. One people it allows to receive suffering. Another – to learn to respond to another’s people problems, to be glad to another’s successes, to be the accomplice of this process, and in some cases simply to be the observer and to take the position of non-interference. A life is a great mystery of Life. For the person it is a persistent, everyday labour which is rich in physical weariness and emotional experiences.

The nature of search of the beloved and the necessary work is one and the same. But you do not know exactly, what you want.

Search is a creative work and it needs a lot of courage, diligence and tendency. Desires and dreams are empty and illusive without it. In your case it is necessary to look at the reality soberly, to become the person of doings and actions. Learn to work really. To work really is meant to work with love. Then dreams of pleasures will disappear. Work will be in pleasure, and it is a significant part of your life. There is no life without difficulties. You will not be able to buy it and you will not place it in a test tube.

Do not wait for a miracle anywhere, from nothing. Only daily work above itself, work for others will help you to be happy and self-sufficient. Only you are in this world, and only you can transform it. Realize yourself. The clock started.

10 April 2005, Просмотров: 45