QUESTION And what about “gay” families? Love is the main thing, isn’t it? I want to make it clear and can’t find the answer anywhere. I believe that all the religions are based on love!

ANSWER OF TAYANA Everybody born into this world seeks for home, harmony with the world and with himself, etc. 

It is difficult to speak on love in theoretical sense, you have no own experience in this sphere! At every stage of the development of consciousness man passes through definite stages of love.

The family is a form of the organization of joint life, which man uses first of all to limit the freedom of the other man’s actions, thoughts, development. But it can be quite the reverse. Of course, each rule has it’s own exception. The family is a social invention, a definite form of control. 

Gay families are based sooner on the opposition to social morals. This is a protest, a wish to show the force of self-expression. But in this case extravagance is a mistake and has nothing in common with love. You can call it an attachment, habit, flight from loneliness, pleasure, thirst for power. Also it happens when communicating with woman, man goes through some experience, then feels disappointed and dissatisfied and that the search for the ideal is not finished yet. He goes further on searching for new experiences – man-man, woman-woman, bisexuals, etc. Here we can see the dependence on sexual relations. 

Yes, sex helps to get particular experience. But for ordinary man everything is not so easy as it seems. For the majority of people sex is a pleasure, which transforms into mere automatism. Only as a result of long search, many times comprehended experience man can understand that the matter is not in the search of an object, but in the self-dependence of the subject.

The main thing is a movement to the aim. The result brings disappointment, some tiredness. You met a girl, fell in love with her, married, the honeymoon passed, and you are already surfeited., love has gone away. But there was no love. There was a love for the object.

You may invent any form of the family you like, but your dissatisfaction wouldn’t pass however you would deceive yourself. In any case here there is a self-expression, a tribute to originality and no joy in the basis. The reason for that is human mind. When one is, it’s slave, then it’s difficult to understand who has won, who has an enormous fortune being a celebrity and an owner of an expensive mansion or that homosexual who has been invited to live in this house under the most profitable for him conditions (terms). 

Truth is learnt in different ways. A moment comes when man understands that he is love himself because love is God and man is in God’s own image. Human mind in terms of society is of the opinion that if particular relationship is being made up, sex is necessary as a form of physical intimacy.

The founders of religion know what love is but religion itself is created by people with the aim of realization of surviving in terms of state. The basics of religion are interpreted. People of the different levels of consciousness interpret these ideals anyway they like, that is why the majority of the so-called “religious people” are not really religious.

The highest level of love is compassion, love transforming into a prayer. And prayer itself is an expression of great gratitude to existence and such a state helps man eradiate. This eradiation is if not seen, then felt by the surrounding people. And the perception of it is different in many cases. What is not seen with the naked eye, not explicable with the ordinary mind causes fear, lack of understanding and anger at inexplicable and unknown. It has always been so. It is impossible to stride from the first step of the ladder on to the tenth at once. All in good time. Don’t forget to live.

02 September 2004, Просмотров: 329